Democrats and Republicans aside, we all have our opinions of President Donald Trump and our first lady, Melania. And while we recall Donald’s boisterous image from the beginning of his campaign, it seems his wife has always hidden in the shadows.
We’ve asked ourselves who Melania really is, how she became Donald’s third wife, and what the inside scoop is on their marriage. And now, we finally have some answers.
Let’s take a quick look at what we uncovered about the most watched couple in the U.S., starting with how they first met. You also won’t believe the strange conspiracy about Melania (No. 12) that people can’t stop talking about, or the drama surrounding one of Donald’s ex-wives (No. 13).
1. Melania snubbed Donald when they first met
As Elite Daily reports, when the two met in 1998, Donald had already been divorced twice when he spotted Melania at a New York Fashion Week party. Melania was just 28 years old at the time.
Paolo Zampolli, the event organizer, introduced Donald to Melania that night. But when Donald eventually asked the model for her contact information, she replied with, “I am not giving you my number; you give me yours, and I will call you.”
2. Her career was in the pits until Donald
Melania struggled with her modeling career even after moving to the United States. Her old roommate reports that her stiffness as a model really worked against her.
In the beginning of their relationship in 1999, both Donald and Melania seemed to get what they wanted from each other. As Vanity Fair says, Donald had his beautiful girlfriend that he could crudely talk about on the radio, and Melania received a lavish lifestyle in return. And thanks to her relationship, she had a modeling spread in British GQ. In the spread, she was handcuffed to a suitcase that Trump himself supplied.
Next: You’ll never guess who was at their wedding.
3. Hillary Clinton was at their wedding
As the Hillary-Donald feud continues well into his presidency, it’s surprising to know Hillary was actually at the couple’s wedding. When Melania and Donald married in 2005, The New York Times reports Hillary and Bill were at their nuptials — and they looked happy to be there, too. The Clintons and Trump were both living in New York at the time, and Bill and Trump even reportedly played golf together. Of course, their relationship was all business. But the bad blood between the Clintons and the current president didn’t start until much later.
Next: Trump was OK with having another child under one condition.
4. Donald allowed her to have kids — if she stayed fit
After she married Donald, Melania wanted to start a family. Here’s where things get weird, though. As Marie Claire reports, the couple had a “contract” of sorts before her pregnancy with Barron. Donald wanted to ensure Melania would get her pre-baby body back, and she assured him everything would go back to how it was.
Of course, there are conflicting reports here, as a spokeperson for Melania claims Donald was a very warm and supportive soon-to-be dad at the time. But others say he seemed to be quite cold and transactional about the whole thing.
Next: What he allegedly did soon after Melania gave birth.
5. He may have had an affair right after she had a baby
Stephanie Clifford — aka as Stormy Daniels — claims that she began an affair with Donald Trump that began in July 2006. That’s just a few months after Melania gave birth to her and Donald’s only child, Barron, in March. Karen McDougal, a Playboy model, also says that she and Donald had an affair that began in June 2006. Trump has denied he had an affair with Daniels and Melania has not commented. Although, the controversy might have helped fuel the strange conspiracy about Melania’s body (No. 12)
Next: Here’s what Trump loves most about his wife.
6. Donald is happy she’s not a ‘nag’
Seeing as this is Donald’s third marriage, he’s chosen someone who appears to be much different than Ivana and Marla. While his previous two wives seemed to be more high maintenance, The New Yorker reports Melania says she’s “not a nagging wife.” Donald has reportedly not taken much interest in her home country of Slovenia or her culture, but for Melania, that’s OK. “I’m not that kind of wife who would say, ‘Learn this’ or ‘Learn that’,” she says. As far as the publication could tell, she doesn’t even tease Donald, but rather obediently compliments him.
Next: Donald loves when Melania does this.
7. Donald demands constant praise
Going along with Melania’s seemingly obedient attitude toward her husband, Michael D’Antonio, author of The Truth About Trump, says he noticed something troubling about their relationship, Vanity Fair reports. D’Antonio says when he met Donald and Melania, Donald said to his wife, “Tell him I’m a really good husband.” He repeated this to her twice before she finally told D’Antonio her husband was great, but it seemed to be dragged out of her.
The author also said Melania had another wifely duty — praising Donald’s fame by telling him he was more well known than other actors or rich folks.
Next: You won’t believe what Donald has said about Melania to Howard Stern.
8. Donald has said terribly lewd things about Melania on air
Trump hasn’t just talked crudely about his wife on the air once — but quite a few times. As Newsweek reports, back in 1999 when Trump was talking Howard Stern, he said he’d groped his wife in public. He also gave details about having sex with his wife and rated other women’s bodies.
In an even more horrifying interview, Trump has said even if Melania was in a car accident, he’d stay with her as long as her breasts were intact, GQ reports.
Next: Melania and Donald both know their marital roles.
9. Donald seems to demand classic gender roles
As Melania puts it to Parenting, her first job is to be a full-time mom for Barron. She’s the primary caretaker for him as Donald goes about his business life — and even when she’s pursuing her own passions, she’s still the one Barron sees on a consistent basis.
And when Melania was asked if Donald helped with childcare duties, she responded with, “He didn’t change diapers and I am completely fine with that. … It’s very important to know the person you’re with. And we know our roles.” Even with her domestic duties, the first lady still maintains that she thrives on her do-it-yourself outlook on life.
Next: Melania tries to protect Donald
10. Melania tries to protect Donald against sexual assault claims
Many women have come forward since Donald’s presidency with allegations of sexual assault. Though Melania hasn’t said too much surrounding the matter, she did brush it off by saying she’s forgiven Donald for any previous misconduct, and we should do the same.
As People reports, Melania has said that while Donald has done some offensive things, we need to “focus on the important issues facing our nation and the world.” And if he says he’s never sexually assaulted the women that have come forward, then Melania says that’s proof enough for her.
Next: Melania surprisingly didn’t consider this incident all that offensive.
11. Melania claims it’s all just ‘boy talk’
You remember the infamous “locker room talk” Trump scandal. While most of us were appalled, Melania didn’t consider it all that offensive. As she said, “I know how some men talk, and that’s how I saw it.” She even joked about it saying, “Sometimes I say I have two boys at home, I have my young son and I have my husband.”
Between the sexual assault allegations and Donald’s crude speech, it seems Melania’s pretty forgiving. But she doesn’t want you to feel bad for her after all this, as she also noted, “Don’t feel sorry for me. I can handle everything.”
Next: Here’s some bizarre speculation about Melania.
12. Many thought she had a body double
It’s no secret the Trump marriage is full of secrets — and in many photos, Melania looks less than thrilled to be with her husband. The latest conspiracy says Melania actually has a body double to fill in for her, as that’s how much she can’t stand being around Donald. According to Metro.co.uk, there’s plenty of “evidence” to suggest Melania’s not anywhere near the White House, and that she’s in fact still in New York.
This theory has been widely debunked, but even so, it really had us wondering about the state of their marriage.
Next: Melania and Trump’s first wife had a recent feud.
13. Ivana calls herself ‘first lady’ and Melania isn’t having it
Melania is certainly the first lady to the American people — but not to Ivana, Trump’s first wife. CNN reports Ivana called herself the real first lady in her new memoir. Instead of sitting back and letting the ridiculousness run its course, Melania wasn’t having any of it. She fired back by saying Ivana’s comments are “attention-seeking and self-serving noise,” according to her communications director, Stephanie Grisham.
Though sources maintain Ivana and Donald are still friendly following their divorce, this particular comment seemed to bother Melania more than others.
Next: Are the first daughter and first lady on good terms?
14. There may be some competition between Ivanka and Melania
When it comes to playing favorites, Donald doesn’t try to hide the fact that Ivanka is the golden child. This also means the first daughter takes on many of the responsibilities that usually belong to the first lady. Daily Mail Online reports a White House spokesperson reassured that Ivanka and Melania are still close, no matter what reports say. But other sources said the two haven’t always gotten along as Ivanka took over some of Melania’s responsibilities. Still, we’ll have to wait and see if any competition between mother and step-daughter would put a rift in the marriage.
Next: Living in the White House may have never been Melania’s dream.
15. Some say she didn’t want to move into the White House at all
Though it took a lot longer than many other first ladies, the day finally came when Melania moved into the White House. While many say she’s excited to delve into the role of the first lady, others sensed some reluctance upon her move. As People notes, she originally stayed in New York so her son could finish school, and Donald instead moved into the White House without her.
That’s not all, though — Melania also loves her independence. Moving into the White House with Donald seems to take a bit of that away from her. Perhaps we’ll see if the presidency and move affect their marriage.