Are you running out of sexy and naughty ideas to keep things exciting in bed? Use these 20 ideas to get your woman in the mood, for now and forever!
Guys, let’s be honest here for a second.
In the majority of your relationships, you and your girl want sex just as much in the beginning, but as time goes on, you start to see a pattern.
And that pattern is you asking more and more for sex, while your once sex-crazed girlfriend turning you down more often.
It wouldn’t be bad if it stopped there, but all of a sudden, your woman probably doesn’t even attempt to initiate sex anymore!
On one hand, you’re worried she may turn you down for sex when you initiate it, and on the other, even when she allows you to get on top of her, she just seems too disinterested in the whole thing.
Are you doing something wrong?
Now it’s not always a guy’s fault when his wife or girlfriend doesn’t want to have sex anymore.
But when this situation arises in your relationship and has been this way for a while, it’s definitely your fault for letting it stay that way!
I’m not pointing fingers here, but really, is it that hard to help your own lover see the good side of passion and romance? Don’t you think it’s worth the effort?
Getting your woman in the mood isn’t a one-night thing
Now, don’t be selfish. You want to have sex, and you want your woman to be ready for it. If that’s the thought that runs in your mind, you’re just a miserable excuse of a man!
You can’t just expect your wife or girlfriend to get turned on like a light bulb at your whims and fancies. Passion takes time to build, just like a slow burner that takes time to warm the pot but stays warm for a long time.
If all you’re looking for are ideas on getting your girl wet, well, that’s easy! [Read: How to get any girl horny just by sitting next to her]
But passion that’s prolonged and intense? Well, that’s a different ball game!
20 things you can do to get your woman in the mood
If you believe your woman’s completely uninterested in sex for a while now, it’s up to the both of you to bring the sizzle back into love.
And if your woman’s not really taking the initiative, here are 20 things you could do to rekindle the passion and bring her back into the mood, tonight and for a long time to come! [Read: 18 awesome sex tips for men to make her crave for more!]
#1 Create a sex bedroom. Surprise your better half with candles in the bedroom and rose petals in bed. Perhaps, even run her a hot tub bath and bring her a glass of wine to relax with. Yes, this may be over the top for some men to even attempt, but take a leap of faith with us here, and we are positive you won’t regret it! [Read: 9 tips to turn your room into a sex bedroom]
#2 Spice up the conversation. Simply stating to your significant other that you are “ready for sex” may have worked when you first met, but it is highly unlikely to still yield the same results at this point in your relationship.
Spice up your conversations with teases and flirty talk, ease in ideas and thoughts, make her feel sexy and then arouse her with your words. [Read: The right way to talk dirty to a girl without turning her off!]
#3 Sexy outfits. Now sexual role playing is not for every couple and that is not what we are suggesting here. If it ends up going in that direction, then great, but you have to make your woman feel sexy.
Let her know and see that you still find her attractive and extremely sexually appealing, and getting her a sexy or revealing piece of underwear is a great way to remind her just how beautiful she is. It’s a present for her, but then again, this is really a present for you!
#4 Seduce your woman. As your relationship ages, you do not want sex to become a chore, nor would you want to stick with the same positions every time, especially if it’s boring.
If you find yourself in this rut, change it up a bit and make the experience all about your woman. By doing so, you are adding a new spark back into your sex life, one we can almost guarantee she will repay happily. [Read: 15 tips to satisfy a woman in bed and make sex exciting for her]
#5 The manners of a gentleman. Realize that no matter what you do, sometimes the answer will just be no. Keep your cool, remain a gentleman and don’t pester your woman. This will not go unnoticed by your human counterpart, we can assure you of that.
#6 Share your feelings. Women can’t read our minds *as much as we sometimes think they can*. Open up, share your feelings, let your girl know what’s on your mind. This will only create a closer bond between the two of you, not widen any gap that may be forming.
#7 Sensual touches. A masterful way to begin foreplay, without focusing on sex but on emotional connection, is by giving her a sensual massage. Lay her down on the bed and make sure to use oil or lotion so she has to remove her clothes. What starts off as a nice gesture ends up a happy ending for everyone involved! [Read: 11 steps to a perfect sensual massage that’ll leave her wet]
#8 Romantic dinners. You girlfriend or wife just had a long day at work, perhaps, she’s been on the go since 6 a.m. and just needs a break. Nothing like surprising the woman you love with a home cooked meal and a glass of wine to help unwind. Not only will she appreciate your gesture, but she’ll also feel closer and more intimately connected to you.
#9 Buy an occasional gift for your woman. Guys, remember this one, a gift with actual meaning and significance will beat out an extravagant gift every single day of the week. Have this gift actually mean something to her, and it will bring you two closer than ever, both in love and in the bedroom.
#10 Showers. Sometimes, you’ve got to jump start the sex, and taking a shower together before getting into bed is at the top of many lists. Seeing each other’s naked bodies, and having body parts brush up against each other in the shower, usually leads to more than just a good night’s sleep. [Read: 9 tips to enjoy shower sex without hurting yourself]
#11 Express your love. You may think your significant other already knows how much you love her, but you would be surprised how many men assume the same thing, as their better halves feel the exact opposite. Put these feelings into words to leave no doubt in her mind where you stand in this relationship.
#12 Cuddle with her. Sometimes, it’s about laying the groundwork. And while cuddling may not always lead to sex, it’ll still bring both of you closer and connect each other intimately. And intimacy is definitely a great start to sexual arousal.
#13 Passionately kiss her. There are different kisses for everything. A kiss goodnight is different from a kiss goodbye where you will not see each other for a few weeks. A deep, passionate kiss should only indicate one thing, and show your woman exactly what it means! [Read: 10 tips that’ll make your kisses more passionate and sexy]
#14 Talk about it. Talk about sex, joke around about it, and send provocative texts to each other throughout the day. And by the time you meet your woman, both of you will have a hard time keeping your hands off of each other.
Don’t be a prude and feel uncomfortable about sex. The more both of you talk about it and exchange ideas, the closer both of you will get, sexually and romantically.
#15 Dessert in bed. Always look to try something new when you feel things are getting monotonous in love. While chocolate and whipped cream are fine choices here, make sure these are not bed sheets that your sweeter half spent a fortune on. Always read the situation.
#16 Extend the foreplay. With most couples, the longer into a relationship they are, the lesser the foreplay that occurs. Don’t ever avoid foreplay, in fact, focus more on foreplay than on penetration, and with each passing night, your woman will only get more in the mood for sex. [Read: 10 things all women really want in bed]
#17 Specific compliments. Make your woman feel special, make her feel sexy and let her know that you think the world of her! If there’s anything at all about her that makes her look sexier or more beautiful, or if she tries something new that looks great on her, compliment her for it instead of thinking it in your head. Appreciate your woman, and she’ll feel sexy all over again!
#18 Be gentle. As guys, we usually want to go hard every chance we get, and soon as we get in. But that’s not something your woman would appreciate, especially if you do it every time you enter her. Sometimes, it is nice to change the pace, slow things down, and really feel your partner’s body moving in unison with yours. You may enjoy it more than you think. [Read: 15 naughty tips to turn a girl on and completely arouse her]
#19 Role playing. This isn’t for everyone, but it can add just the right spark in a failing sex life. Some all-time favorites are a nurse/doctor role, a boss/secretary role and of course, a naughty student/teacher role. See which one works best in your relationship and try not to be too timid about your character either. Remind yourself you’re only around the one you love and enjoy the moment!
#20 Watch or read something sexual together. Sometimes, the biggest spark can occur when you’re watching a sex scene on television or an adult film with your partner.
But if it makes your woman feel more uncomfortable instead of aroused, a nice way to ease her into it is by joking around and telling her that you could do it better than the actors on screen. This line opens the door, but it’s up to you to follow through with it!